Speaking of which.. can't you fragging people tell you don't make things better by writing them in a public forum? No matter how right and correct you think your opinion is, no matter how little right and correct you think your opinion needs to be if you feel strongly enough about it.. you can post all the journal entries, comments, and email list emails you want but it's extraordinarily likely to make it worse, and extraordinarily unlikely to make it better. Since the beginning of this I have not seen one communication that did not contain the seeds of new anger.
This is all just convincing me that if I have a problem with a person I need to take it up directly with them or keep my mouth shut (and my fingers off the keyboard). If you think I'm wrong, I am under no rational impression that I possess the ultimate wisdom. It's a very helpless feeling to watch your friends argue.